Couples Therapy
There’s just so much to figure out…
The fights are exhausting, so you keep everything bottled up… and it’s wearing on you.
It’s the same old argument, and you don’t see any way out.
“Is he really going to tell me I’m loading the dishwasher that wrong way? It feels like we fight over the smallest things, and I can’t help but feel hurt and offended. You are really going to tell me I don’t know how to load the dishwasher.”
It’s hard to wrap your mind around how these little things can turn into big fights, and you’ve finally gotten to the point where you just don’t care.
“I’ll take the blame. He’s right; I don’t know how to load the dishwasher.”
And, you find yourself taking the blame for everything… “Yes, the broken sprinklers are my fault, the neighbor’s dog barking is my problem, and I need to fix global warming.”
It’s out of balance, and you can’t seem to get it back in balance. You’ve been taking the blame for so long, feeling sad and depressed. You can’t even get angry anymore.
When things are in a rut… but you keep on going…
… just hoping for a change.
Maybe… but when? When you have a certain amount of money in the bank?
When it’s summertime and you’re on vacation? We will be on our annual family vacation, and his family will be there. It helps remind us why we are together.
If only we could listen to each other, I know we could figure it out.
We have so much history and investment in this relationship.
How would I live on my own?
Do you really want to feel alone in your relationship?
Here’s how therapy can help…
I can help you feel less alone and as you learn to communicate with your partner.
A third party can help hold the tension and fear. This allows you to be able to express the difficult feelings that you have toward your partner.
Learning how to accept all aspects of your partner’s thoughts and feelings can be extremely difficult, and it’s helpful having a professional with skills to navigate with compassion and empathy.
Neither of you came into the relationship to intentionally hurt the other, and relationships take a commitment to see each other in all lights.
Together, we’ll walk you both back to the start and remember what it was like at the beginning.
I can help you refocus your relationship.
Therapy provides a space where both of you can share how you really feel – where you can really hear each other and become curious about your partner again.
What would it be like to enjoy each other again?
Building on your strengths…
Prepare/Enrich is an assessment tool that I can use to help understand your relationship’s areas of strength and growth.
Often, when we are disconnected from our partner, it’s difficult to remember our strengths, understand differences in personalities, and look at your issues as an opportunity to grow.
Together, we can put the pieces back together…
When relationships grow apart, it can help having someone there to build perspective.
Helping couples find the love that they share for one another is the foundation of a relationship. Being vulnerable to communicate your needs in a relationship will develop a strong bond.
You CAN have a healthy relationship that lets you both shine – one where you’re both on the same page and feel the connection that you had at the beginning.
Give me a call today for a 20-minute free consultation: (303) 906-1299.