Healing from Trauma
“What happened to me??”
I want a good life, but it’s not for me.
Everyone is so rude and mean. People are the problem… if only I could be left alone.
I can’t stop thinking about the past and wonder if I’m broken.
I feel bad when I overreact and lash out.
If only I could get some rest, but I can’t sleep!
Things have happened to me, and I don’t understand why.
I’ve been told that I should go see a therapist, but what are they going to do for me? No one understands what it is like to be me. But I’m here reading this stupid website, and I would really like someone to help me.
What if something did happen to you that wasn’t your fault?
And what if I told you that it caused an instinctual response to keep you emotionally and physically safe?
Would you be able to trust that there may be a reason you feel like you have little control over your emotions?
Trauma is not easily defined, just as it’s not easy to define why you feel the way you feel. Some people experience an acute trauma – like a car accident, or something that they can point out and are able to identify that this thing happened to me.
Others have had something happen that brings a lot of embarrassment or shame from childhood, and they would rather not remember.
“But, I’m safe now, so this does not make sense.”
“I should be over my trauma.”
This is another example of self-blame that leads to depression and anxiety. What happened to you was not logical. Our trauma response is held in the survival part of our brain whose sole purpose is to keep us alive. Our brains turned off the logical part and turned on our flight/fight/freeze response so that we can escape danger.
Life can be confusing, and your body may be reacting in ways you don’t understand. There is disconnect with how your body and mind react to perceived threats and that can lead to confusion and distrust. Feeling disoriented is a natural response to trauma because of the instinctual reaction to survive.
I know… trust is REALLY hard.
And, I have helped others with trauma that feel the way you feel.
We will discover how and why your body and mind react to what people say. You will find a different way to handle feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
Unfortunately, our lives don’t stop when something has happened to us. We must pay bills, go to work, and maintain relationships – life can feel overwhelming and out of control. But you can regain control and reconnect to your life with a new since of empowerment.
I will help you gain control of your life.
We’ll establish a space of emotional and physical safety – a place to practice trusting yourself. Breaking down piece by piece how you perceive potential emotional and physical threats will help you see how you can make small changes to see your life in a different way. This will start the process of creating your personal power.
I’ll also teach you how our brain processes trauma. Our educational system does not teach us the basics of how our brain processes emotions, feelings, and thoughts. Practical information will help you understand that you are not alone.
I will take the time to help you process and express your feelings in a safe way. Opening up about your process allows you to be vulnerable. When something has happened to you that you don’t understand, it’s natural to want to keep control.
We’ll deal with the grief and memories… and how they impact your life. As the foundation is being built, the space for vulnerability and tenderness can happen. In that break down comes more insight and healing.
It will take practice and patience, but I will be there with you every step of the way.
This is your chance to take control of your life.
Holding this space with you is why I came to this work, and I have seen others transform and feel more empowered to live a life that they dream of living. I look forward to hearing from you, and please reach out to ask questions.
Your past does not have to define your future!
Please call today for a free 20-minute consultation: (303) 906-1299.